I can only speak to fuenrals as I have never done a wedding in 12 years. I have done plenty of premarital counseling. And NO Trey, I did not talk them out of it. My experience has shown opportunity in both settings. It is a little intimidating to think of joining others together in the divorce ridden country we live in. That would be one more burden on my heart. And to amen Monalea, a saint who has lived a long and colorful life can bring such joy. Yes we grieve but we are not to grieve like the world.